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Individual Therapy

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From the Outside, Your Day Looked Like a Good One

You answered everything, and you got to the meeting on time.

Nobody in that room could tell what it cost you to be there.

By the end of the day you are not satisfied with what you have done, only relieved that it is over.

You wanted more than this, and lately you have wondered whether you made the right decision to get here.

Hard Work Has Gotten You This Far

The effort is real, and it has worked before.

It got you the position, the standing, the thing you were aiming for.

So when you feel misunderstood and unvalued at the very place where you earned all of that, the answer that occurs to you is to work harder still.

Some of it follows you home, into a relationship that is not what you hoped it would be.

Life Does Not Have to Be as Hard as You Have Made It

Not every obstacle in front of you is coming from outside you.

Somewhere along the way you settled on what you have to carry in order to deserve what you want, and you have been carrying it ever since.

Carrying it has never been what makes you good at your work.

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You Have More Power Over This Than You Realize

Together we will unpack the heavy burden you “think” you need to carry in order to find success.

Piece by piece, we will look at what each part of it is actually for.

Which Assumptions Energize You, and Which Ones Drain Your Joy

Some of what you assume about yourself is true and worth keeping.

Other assumptions are quietly taking your joy, and you have never once stopped to ask whether they hold up.

We will find out which is which, and then we will change the ones that need changing.

“Move those boulders” is how I describe that part of the work, and how much of the moving you do yourself will surprise you.

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The Morning You Have Not Had Yet

You wake up reasonably sure that it will be a good day, and that what needs to get done will get done.

The promotion still matters to you, and you are no longer auditioning for it.

Or you are building the thing that is yours, guided by your own vision and your own strengths, with the fear about it named out loud and cut down to a size you can walk around.

Changing your perspective can change your life, and that is the work we will do together.

Tell Me About the Morning You Want

If your current situation does not match what you wanted, we will look together for the way that is right for you.

I will bring my whole attention to the work, and I will keep it pointed at the assumptions that are costing you the most.

That first different morning starts with a phone call: (805) 491-4429.

The consultation is free, it runs fifteen minutes, and we will spend it on the thing you want to change first.

Describe That Morning to Me

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Say the Thing You've Been Holding

Life is better lived free of hesitations, so you can be your authentic self, speak your mind, and be heard.

Start with a free 15-minute call. It's our time to talk briefly so we're less like strangers when we meet.

I am eager to meet you!

Let's Be Less Like Strangers